docs: clarify sidecar boundary and training status

README.md

@@ -2,7 +2,7 @@
 
 Timmy's sovereign configuration. Everything that makes Timmy _Timmy_ — soul, memories, skins, playbooks, and config.
 
-This repo is the canonical source of truth for Timmy's identity and operational state. Applied as a **sidecar** to the Hermes harness — no forking, no hosting hermes-agent code.
+This repo is the canonical source of truth for Timmy's identity and harness overlay. Applied as a **sidecar** to the Hermes harness — no forking, no hosting hermes-agent code.
 
 ## Structure
 
@@ -23,9 +23,22 @@ timmy-config/
 ├── memories/                  ← Persistent memory YAML
 ├── skins/                     ← UI skins (timmy skin)
 ├── playbooks/                 ← Agent playbooks (YAML)
-└── cron/                      ← Cron job definitions
+├── cron/                      ← Cron job definitions
+└── training/                  ← Transitional training recipes, not canonical lived data
 ```
 
+## Boundary
+
+`timmy-config` owns identity, conscience, memories, skins, playbooks, channel
+maps, and harness-side orchestration glue.
+
+`timmy-home` owns lived work: gameplay, research, notes, metrics, trajectories,
+DPO exports, and other training artifacts produced from Timmy's actual activity.
+
+If a file answers "who is Timmy?" or "how does Hermes host him?", it belongs
+here. If it answers "what has Timmy done or learned?" it belongs in
+`timmy-home`.
+
 ## Orchestration: Huey
 
 All orchestration (triage, PR review, dispatch) runs via [Huey](https://github.com/coleifer/huey) with SQLite.

training/README.md

@@ -1,8 +1,11 @@
 # Training
 
-LoRA fine-tuning pipeline for Timmy's sovereign model. No custom harness — just config files for existing tools.
+Transitional training recipes for Timmy's sovereign model. These files are
+useful as reference configs and export helpers, but they are not the canonical
+home of Timmy's lived training data.
 
-Replaces the `autolora` repo (1,500 lines of custom code → config + `make`).
+Canonical data should live in `timmy-home` under gameplay trajectories,
+research artifacts, and `training-data/` exports such as DPO pairs.
 
 ## Install
 
@@ -23,6 +26,16 @@ make convert        # Convert merged data to MLX train/valid format
 make help           # Show all targets
 ```
 
+## Status
+
+This directory exists to avoid re-growing a bespoke training harness while the
+system boundary is being cleaned up.
+
+- Keep thin recipes and export helpers here only when they directly support the
+  Hermes sidecar.
+- Keep generated data, DPO pairs, and other lived artifacts in `timmy-home`.
+- Prefer deleting stale pipeline code over expanding it.
+
 ## Files
 
 ```